3 Common Conditions Women Don’t Talk About: Incontinence, Lack of Sexual Desire, and Irritable Bowel Syndrome


Even the most blunt, out-spoken women tend to clam up if they have one of these three potentially embarrassing medical problems: Biofeedback training is sometimes given in combination with pelvic floor training.

Injection of a bulking agent around the bladder neck and the urethra (urine-carrying tube) can help reduce colon (large bowel) that is very sensitive to certain foods and to high stress levels.

Most likely to be affected are people with hard-driving personalities and those under extreme stress. “All the symptoms tend to be aggravated by stress,” Galier says.

Once dietary supplement that includes ginseng, multivitamins, minerals, and ginkgo, may help increase female libido, Whipple found in a recent study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.

Another option is a botanical oil that, some studies indicate, improves desire when massaged into the female genitals.

Simply changing your routine may help boost your desire. Try having sex in different positions or at different times of the day.

Tackling the Subject

Bringing up sensitive topics with your doctor such as bladder, bowel, and libido problems isn’t easy, but it could bring you tremendous relief. Here are some tips to remember:

  • Be straightforward, clear, and honest. Try to remind yourself that, as sensitive as these topics are, your physician is trained to deal with all types of physical complaints, and will not judge or embarrass you.
  • Prepare for a conversation with your doctor by noting when symptoms began, how severe they are, and how the problem interferes with your daily routine. Have a list of medications you take, too. Focusing on these practical details may help you overcome any embarrassment.
  • Keep your problem in perspective. None of the conditions is life-threatening and all can be helped by an array of treatments. And consider how great you are going to feel when you don’t have to live with the symptoms anymore!