365 Nights of Sex: Can It Strengthen a Marriage?

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If you decided to have sex every day, would your relationship benefit?

Two long-married couples decided to find out. When lovemaking fell off their respective “to-do” lists, they ditched the sweats, bought sex toys and books, stepped up exercise, lit candles, and took trips. Then they chronicled their “sexperiment” in two recently released books, Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!) by Doug Brown and 365 Nights: A Memoir of sexual relationship. “It should be possible for any couple to do it for a week and for it not to be a chore. It’s free and it’s fun. Why not plan it and take advantage of it? Anticipation is a big part of sex.”

Having sex every day may be unrealistic for most couples, but if you and your partner want to ramp up your sex life, experts offer the following tips for success:

Increase in increments. Muller recommends couples start by doubling their frequency. Then doubling it again in six months.

Re-examine your sex life — often. Though they now average sex three times a week, Doug Brown says his wife recently told him they need a “tune-up,” or a mini-marathon of sex.

Act on your desires. “Whenever you have the urge, says Macari, head straight for the bedroom. The more time [that elapses] between having the idea and following up and you’ll lose motivation.”

Fake it till you make it. Several experts agree: Even if you aren’t in the mood, once you begin, you’ll enjoy sex.