Sex Matters®: Playing Cupid


Q: How can I turn Valentine’s Day into a romantic date worth remembering?

A: I can suggest a number of tips for making the most of Feb. 14. The most important, however, is to make the holiday a celebration of your relationship.

First, be tuned in to your mate’s picture of Valentine’s Day. Some couples like to share a romantic dinner, some exchange greeting cards, others want sexy lingerie to be given and worn.

Valentine’s Day may have evolved into the idea of men buying women lots of jewelry, flowers, candy, and lingerie, but I think a shared experience, where women give as much as men, is the better approach. Still, talk about your romantic expectations beforehand to minimize disappointment. Differing ideas can cause a little heartbreak.

Next, create a plan. When I was massage oils, toys (even a feather can be pretty exciting), or adult videos to add spark to the occasion.

Even if you struggle with low libido, don’t downplay the importance of fantasies. Use these images in your mind to get you thinking in that direction on Valentine’s Day. It is, after all, a day for love.